There are so many words to described this kid.
S...L...O...W... as a turtle.
Everything in his four year old world revolves on Charlie time.
When he plays, he is fully engrossed in the moment. He is never thinking ahead of what's next on the agenda.
When he tells his (long) version of the story, I tend to have the desire to drive him to the bottom line, but he has so many rich details to reveal, that I've learned better.
But, I'm feeling so torn lately. I feel like he is constantly hearing from me, "Charlie! We need to hurry."
In the morning when we are shoving down breakfast and getting dressed, Charlie just wants to cuddle on the couch with his Skipit and take it slow.
Charlie is on Charlie time. I swear he is hiding a secret cruise control button on his body somewhere.
Meanwhile, I hear the clock ticking away.
Tonight, once again this came to the forefront. Charlie was enjoying his shower playtime. He had all his dinosaurs and other toys in there with him. He could play in there for hours. However, we had 3 kids to get ready for bed, homework to be finished, and truth be told, I was beat and needed the kids in bed before Survivior started.
As he slowly started to wind down his shower time by using Charlie time, I said, "come on Charlie, you are always as slow as a turtle!"
I know it wasn't anything too awful to say to him, but the kid does not need to hear "always" statements in his life already. It further nailed me to what I'm struggling with.
How do I let Charlie be Charlie, Charlie time and all, without going nuts?
How do I let the kid enjoy his moments when we really do have other places to go and things to do.
I reassure you that it is not always like this, but I just want to find a way to let him be without having negative consequences such as being tardy to school.
So as I was contemplating all the ways I can help Charlie learn to speed it up around here, it dawned on me that perhaps I am the one who has a lesson to learn.
Perhaps I could use my own cruise control button. Perhaps I can slow down, take it all in, and enjoy.
Just like my turtle, Charlie.